Esther Perel & Terry Real present:

A 5-Month Online Training for Mastering

LOVE, SEX & POWER in Relationship Therapy

plus...

A Special LIVE 2-Day Training Event

“Relationships are undergoing a radical transformation and as therapists our world is becoming increasing complex because couples come to us to solve difficult problems and look to us for ways they can deepen intimacy.”

Esther Perel

Welcome!

We are excited to let you know about our NEW Professional Training - RELATE!

You might ask, “Why did we create the training and why another relationship program?"

Both of us  are known for different specialties: Esther for her work with intimacy and sex and Terry for his work with challenging couples.

Both of us have developed unique approaches that work for even the messiest, most difficult, and seemingly unrepairable situations. By coming together you get not one but TWO ways to look at a situation.

Unique and practical clinical approaches emerge, many of which go against traditional therapy training. We want YOU to look over our shoulders as we discuss case after case.

The TRUTH is that many of our clients have never been taught HOW to relate to each other!

We have to teach them HOW to relate. We have to model telling the truth in sessions so they can bring that into their relationships.

We created RELATE for therapists to:

  1. Navigate the increasing complexity of relationship therapy including multi-generational perspectives and different relationship configurations
  2. Give you tools, techniques, and methods that we use to get faster and better outcomes, and
  3. To put forth new ideas that can serve you and your clients.

When you join us over the next five months you’ll get 5 hours of training per month plus a LIVE call with the two of us. We’ll also come together to meet and learn from each other at the end of the training for a 2-day event.

Check out all the details on this page and we invite you to this special training.

Blessings,
Esther Perel & Terry Real

p.s. This is the first time we have worked together in this way and can't wait to be with you on this course. A special focus of this training is to look at the DIFFICULT topics that often are left out of the therapy room.

“We have to help out clients not only uncover and heal the problem they have come to therapy for, but also teach them new ways of relating and being with each other so they have a chance to make the relationship last and flourish.”

- Terry Real

How to work with LOVE, SEX &
POWER in Client Therapy Sessions

We will be looking at the most challenging issues you face in your sessions as a therapist and see how each sensitive area can be used to create breakthrough results for transforming your clients and their relationships.

5 Myths of Relationship Therapy

We will be deconstructing some of the long-held myths of relationship therapy and looking at how you can use these as ways to create a NEW paradigm for your practice and for your clients.

Myth #1

Sexual Problems are a Consequence of Relationship Problems

ALT: Even when you "repair" or "fix" a relationship often the sex does NOT follow, but the reverse is often the case.

Myth #2

Passion Inevitably Fades

ALT: Passion does not have to fade…in fact it can get stronger as the relationship grows.

Myth #3

Fantasy is the Bread of the Impoverished

ALT: Imagination is our ability remain engaged and interested in ourself and our partner...by using this resource you can sustain desire in the long run, and it also points to some of our deepest emotional wishes.

Myth #4

Babies Dispel Eroticism

ALT: Babies are not the cause of declining eroticism–the loss of resources is…but you can help couples reclaim erotic energy.

Myth #5

Infidelity (Real or Fantasized) is Always a Symptom of Relationship Problems

ALT: There are other ways to use this sensitive issue to open the relationship to growth and to bring intimacy back. The crisis can be the kernel for transformation.

INTRODUCING...

A 5-Month Online Training for Mastering

LOVE, SEX & POWER in Relationship Therapy

with ESTHER PEREL & TERRY REAL

ONLINE TRAINING • COMMUNITY • CE UNITS • 2-DAY LIVE EVENT • CERTIFICATE

Here’s what is inside the training:

 

1. FIVE MONTHLY MODULES OF DOWNLOADABLE AUDIO SESSIONS with Terry Real and Esther Perel

The 25+ hours of instruction and content is structured into 5 modules and presented in a conversational format that is easy to listen to and absorb.

You’ll find specific interventions and exact techniques that are explained in detail and supplemented with illustrative examples or case studies. The methods presented here are unique and effective and exclusive to Terry Real and Esther Perel.

Month 1 Module:
Anatomy Of Couples Therapy

Month 2 Module:
Challenges & Choices: The Art of Direction and Perception

 

Month 3 Module:
Nuts & Bolts:
The ‘How To’ of Effective Couples Therapy

Month 4 Module:
Rethinking Couples Therapy:
A New Perception for a New Frontier

 

Month 5 Module:
Love, Sex & Power

 

2. Fully Downloadable Transcripts of Every Lesson in PDF Format (over 500 pages of training documents)

You’ll receive every lesson in print, which you can either print out or read on your computer, iPad, or mobile device. These PDFs are an amazing reference guide and resource. Plus, you can complete the entire program with these transcripts if you prefer to read.

4. Private Facebook Community

Enjoy interaction with other therapists, share your insights, and receive support or professional advice. The connections made in this dynamic community are often worth the price of the entire program!

3. Individual Membership Portal

Access all your course materials with ease in your very own membership site.

5. LIVE Monthly Calls
with Esther and Terry

Plus, If You Order Today, You’ll Receive These Special Bonuses at No Extra Cost:

6. BONUS #1:
The RELATE Live 2-Day Event

Join us for this special event with Esther and Terry and special guests in Boulder, Colorado on March 3 - 4, 2017 for over 12 hours of additional training and networking on relationship therapy.

Just pay a $100 refundable deposit to reserve one of the limited spaces for this event. You will be refunded this at the event.

7. BONUS #2:
RELATE Live Event Video Recordings

Just in case you cannot make the event for any reason, we will be recording the event and will upload the training directly to the membership site. This is an additional ~12+ hours of training.

What’s Inside Each Month of the New Intimacy Therapy Training

Module 1:
Anatomy Of Couples Therapy

Part I:

Creating a Solid Foundation for Effectual Therapy with New Clients

  • Find out why the first 5 minutes are crucial for establishing structure, instilling confidence and creating a safe atmosphere for healing
  • Learn how to avoid uncertainty and hesitation from the very start using proven techniques to validate your credibility as a practitioner
  • Discover the exact questions and procedures used by Terry and Esther to build healthy relationships with their clients and treat reluctant clients

Part II:

Create Structure in Your Sessions that Promotes Deep Healing and Results

  • Discover Sacred Confidentiality and the PASS rule: The 2 most important rules for maintaining a structured environment
  • Learn how to initiate verbal contracts to avoid distressing and unnecessary tension
  • Use ‘Direct’ versus ‘Subtle’ Questions to effectively reveal vital information about your patient without inciting resistance or withdrawal

Part III:

Bold Solutions to Real Problems with the 3 Levels of Intervention

  • Learn how to reverse self-sabotage in your clients by clearly defining stances and belief systems PLUS providing solutions immediately
  • Discover exactly how to help clients differentiate between ‘subjective’ and ‘objective’ truths and how to reframe deeply entrenched stories
  • Avoid the danger of shying away from core issues and how you, the therapist, can exponentially improve your results with appropriate bold interventions


Part IV:

Deep Dive into Unhealthy Belief Systems and Family of Origin Trauma

  • Learn exactly how to approach grief, trauma and sensitivity with compassion and responsibility in a professional, effective way
  • The process for altering your clients' perceptions about their partner to see things from a new and exciting view - They will love YOU for this!
  • Techniques for remaining solution-based in the midst of deep psychological victimhood and trauma...

Part V:

The Generational Layer: Intense Therapy for Dedicated Clients

  • Discover how to work with family of origin issues from a historic or present-day perspective, plus the techniques necessary to retrain the trauma
  • Learn the 2 Components of Inner Child Work to ‘open’ couples to a point of receptivity that allows for healing stubborn and traumatic wounds
  • Create multi-generational channels of healing that supersede the conscious mind and work at the level of the subconscious

“When we unlock the taboos around sex and power, we also unlock what keeps relationships stuck in a holding pattern.”

Esther Perel

Module 2:
Challenges & Choices: The Art of Direction and Perception

Part I:

Attachment v. Romantic Love - Desire v. Intimacy - Sex v. Connection

  • Discover the vital relational difference between parent-child and romantic relationships in the therapeutic setting
  • Create specific protocols for clients to bridge the gap between attachment and healthy romantic love, including sex and intimacy therapies
  • Reframe the relationship as a continuous cycle of connection, disconnection, and then repair, giving credibility to the process


Part II:

Self-Destructive and Relationship-Destructive Behaviors: How to Unravel Relational Ruin

  • Learn how to identify and treat love-avoidants and heal the dichotomy in their soul
  • Discover the mystery of the ‘hero child’; how it expresses in adult relationships and what therapies to use to diffuse the story
  • Get an exact method for dealing with the 2 Forms of Grandiosity: Gratification and Relational Joy and how to transmute these mindsets into True Intimacy

Part III:

Relationships as Healing Mechanisms for Deep & Untreated Wounds

  • Find out how the ‘dream of healing’ hinders progress and leads to divorce 🙁
  • Discover how individual responsibility is the key to empowered couples therapy
  • Learn how romantic relationships are the most powerful tool for healing childhood trauma for individuals and couples

Part IV:

Practical Techniques for Correcting Underlying Belief Systems and Helping with Couples’ Decision-Making

  • Learn how to interpret the age-old question: “Should I stay or go?”
  • Discover how Relational Reckoning, Redirection, Reframing, and Resilience-based approaches interplay with couples decision-making
  • Get couples to ‘step out of the old groove’ by redirecting their relational choreography!

Part V:

Determine Your Limits and Goals as a Therapist, Plus Manage Separations Gracefully

  • Know the preconditions for intimacy therapy and beware of the definite deal breakers… Keep your practice sacred and safe
  • Discover several models for sustained relationships as tools for helping clients to map their future as a successful couple
  • Learn how to facilitate break-ups with the 2 rituals of disengagement, plus specific separation ceremonies for the post-feminist era

Module 3:
Nuts & Bolts: The ‘How To’ of Effective Couples Therapy

Part I:

Relational v. Contractual Diagnosis: Clarity is the Key

  • Discover how the ‘recursive feedback loop’ sabotages relationships subconsciously and how to break the cycle for good
  • Learn ways to alleviate biases in clients who have tried couples therapy and failed in the past…
  • Get solid interventions and techniques for treating addiction, affairs and other conditions as they relate to couples therapy

Part II:

The Fairy Tale Story & The Power of Re-Framing  

  • Learn 3 proven strategies to help your clients construct more empowering stories for themselves and their relationships
  • Create ‘Appropriate Discrepancy’ to promote change in a relationship model that your clients will embrace and appreciate
  • Discover the art of reframing’ and how to manage the conversation with the couple as individuals or together in the room

Part III:

Family of Origin and Intergenerational Transmission

  • Unravel the ‘Secret History’ within familial templates to help clients transcend deep rooted negative attitudes
  • Find out how the ‘Mysticism of Marriage’ is a powerful way to recreate behaviors and actions in couples and individuals
  • Discover how the ‘Relational Grid’ can heal generations of unhealthy intimacy patterns

Part IV:

The Role of the Therapist: Become a Guardian for Your Clients’ Recovery

  • Learn the ONE KEY to ‘preserve yourself’ as a practitioner
  • Discover how to use correct phrasing to illuminate certain aspects of your clients’ relationships that need attention
  • Learn the art of proper timing to effectively drive home your point without losing professionalism or creating resentment

Part V:

Sex & Couples: The Secret to Profound Therapy

  • Discover why the ‘Erotic Connection’ of couples can make the difference between success and failure in a marriage
  • Learn the 5 Principles of Effective Sex Therapy and why you might be the last hope for your clients
  • Get specific techniques for helping clients who have fetishes, voyeurism, BDSM, or other sexual preferences

Module 4:
Rethinking Relationship Therapy: A New Perception for a New Frontier

Part I:

The Therapeutic Paradigm Less Traveled (but more effective)

  • Discern the layers of faulty boundaries that underlie the volatile fighting couple and help clients individuate and differentiate from the other partner
  • Learn the rhythm of effective therapy to build vulnerability and empathy between clients and their partners
  • Actively intervene, be in the middle and give people the language, the structure and the skills they are missing

Part II:

A New Frame of Reference for Modern Therapy & How Intimacy is the Key

  • Find out how relationship therapy is rapidly changing and why some therapists are standing out in the crowd
  • Discover powerful techniques that no school currently teaches and very few therapists use in practice
  • Learn how to induce compassion in your clients and how this can help couples succeed in marriage where other methods have failed

Part III:

Avoid ‘Therapeutic Relapse and Keep Your Clients Improving

  • Learn the 3 ‘Pattern Breakers’ that can easily revamp relationships and prevent couples from giving up
  • Bring truth to the lies and secrets inherent in clients who have affairs, and learn to do this with tact and poise
  • Discover how to intervene with a person who is a “Victim of a Marriage”

Part IV:

Sexuality vs. Lust & Proper Interventions for Sexual Healing

  • Learn the distinct difference between Women’s and Men’s sexuality and how this can help you treat them correctly, and with confidence
  • Discover the top interventions used for pornography or sexual addictions
  • Learn the best ways to explore sexuality with your clients in an appropriate and safe way

Part V:

Power, Dominance & Aggression: A Sensitive Subject

  • Give partners the resources necessary to move away from co-dependence and into empowerment
  • Learn the secret of working with partners who are both ‘latent’ and ‘blatant’ in their approach to relationships, plus how to undo the ingrained pattern
  • Create a safe and nurturing place for aggressive clients to redirect their energy into positive outcomes for them and for yourself

Module 5:
Love, Sex & Power

Part I:

Stop the Power Struggles Without Extinguishing the Fire

  • Observe the 3 Rings of ‘Psychological Patriarchy’: The Great Divide, The Dance of Contempt, and The Core of Collusion to balance unequal power dynamics in any relationship
  • Stop the ‘velvet war’: an unnoticed power struggle that ultimately destroys relationships and ruins sexual intimacy
  • Learn the secret to form healthy power dynamics in a relationship: emotionally, mentally and sexually

Part II:

Why Intimacy Is For The Brave (and how to get couples to take the risk)

  • Learn why honesty is a relative term and how to deal with manipulative patients
  • Discover how to become a ‘Relational Champion’ and actively promote healthy relationships and sex lives for your clients
  • Unravel the ‘Myths of Security’ with your clients to transform insecurity into bravery and dullness into adventure

Part III:

The Link Between Sex and Intimacy...

  • Discover how to shift your conversation around sex to include ‘Erotic Intimacy’ and take your therapy to new heights
  • Learn why mundane and robotic sex is inevitable for couples who lack intimacy, plus get the top interventions designed to revive intimacy in couples
  • Get the 3 Critical Questions you can ask to shift perceptions around sex--ultimately sex becomes a space for couples to enter, rather than something they do

Part IV:

How to Move Your Clients to Unconditional Love

  • Discover the irony of increased intimacy from unwavering ‘Impersonal’ Love and how to eliminate domination or aggressiveness to promote true power in a relationship
  • Learn safe practices for helping your clients sit in a space of sexual vulnerability while helping them to move closer in their relationship
  • Find out the top 3 emotional awareness practices that make for intimate sexual experiences and prevent sexual avoidance

“Relationships are undergoing a radical transformation in our world today and
as therapists we also have to upgrade our skills to address the increasing
complexity to be of service and to get positive outcomes for our clients”

Esther Perel

The New Intimacy Therapy
Training and Event

Once More, Here’s Everything You’ll Receive:

  1. Over 25 Hours of Downloadable Audio Lessons in 5 Modules [Value $1997]
  2. Full Transcripts of every Lesson in PDF format [Value $297]
  3. Live Monthly Calls with Esther and Terry [Value $297]

  4. Individual Membership Portal

  5. Private Facebook Community [Priceless]

Plus, These Special Bonuses:

BONUS #1: Special Live RELATE Event [Value $897]

BONUS #2: RELATE Event Recordings

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Training and Event

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